If you suffer from codependency issues, then you’re you’re probably inclined to jump head first into a ditch if someone were stuck down there and needed you… and you’d probably do so without giving it much thought. If this is you, then you probably feel drained by other people’s energies, especially because they usually “need” you or at least have no problem vomiting their toxic energy, complaints, and negative comments onto you. This makes you feel heavy, like you have to carry their luggage. And you most likely believe that you are a good, caring, and nice person, especially because your empathic nature can feel their pain and emotions. You take on the weight of their issues. In fact, you would feel terribly guilty if you didn’t! Well, have I got news for you…
Other people are not your biggest problem. Your biggest problem is YOU! Whether it’s insecurity or low self-worth, there is usually an underlying reason for you behaving this way. And it may just be because you are a solidly and genuinely nice person, but there is something you should know. You taking on other’s emotions and problems all the time is not only hurting you, but them! Yes, you heard right, you are hurting the people that you think you are helping all this time. Why? Because there is something called enabling. When we enable others to complain to us all the time, take advantage of us, or use us to dump their “luggage” on us, we give them permission to continue to do so. This means that they stay “stuck” and never change for the better. Or at least we never provide them an opportunity to change for the better. Now the question is, are you ready to make codependency something of the past?
If you were raised with parents or siblings that dumped on you, then it’s probably out of familiarity that you continue to do this later in life with others. Whatever the reason, you can change the way you perceive things and behave, thereby changing the experiences and relationships that you have. You will draw healthier relationships towards you. Here are some steps you can take to make this change:
1) Stop feeling guilty
2) Establish stronger boundaries
3) Take steps toward better self-love
4) Get closer to God, or your Higher Power
5) Love more unconditionally, as God or your Higher Power loves you (He doesn’t try and change you, fix you, and save you from every fall, but rather loves you and helps you when you begin to make the changes first).
6) Clear emotions, traumas, generational baggage, and lower vibrations of negative old belief systems. (You can make an appointment to do this work with us!)
7) Receive help and support from those who have healthy boundaries, or a counselor that you can talk to that will keep you accountable to change.
Codependency is just another form of imbalance, and like all energetic imbalances, you can receive acupuncture and Chinese herbs, and rely on our caring staff to support you through your journey!